A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Getting married comes with a lot of emotions and expectations from the bride to be. She is very excited, anxious but at the same time stressed because she wants everything to go on perfectly. Before the wedding, she has a lot on her to do list from the hall, makeup, outfits, photography, feeding etc. and trust ladies, they want their weddings to unfold like the fairy tale on their minds since childhood. All these things are important but my dear to be bride, can you calm down from your wedding errands and think about the after wedding?. After they must have pronounced you husband and wife it is not at that moment that you will start thinking on how to become a good wife.
There is a lot to be settled in the secret place as Proverbs 14:1 says ‘‘A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands”. This means that you need time to fellowship with God to teach you how to build your home. I know that you must have gone through counselling, that is perfect and vital yet you need the help of the Holy Spirit to guide you in this lifetime journey because many people went through counselling and still had failed marriages, not because the counseling was not properly done but there was no war room to speak for them in times of trial.
Before you walk down the aisle, ensure that you have spent time with God and He has tamed your character because Ephesians 5:22-24 says “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” To fulfil this scripture you need the help of the Holy Spirit because there are days you might feel like disobeying but that gentle little voice will direct you. Be friends with the Holy Spirit because at times your husband might be saying something and you know deep inside that your suggestion is the best, what you will need to do is to pray and the Lord will tell him the best thing. I tell you this works so well. A woman whose friend is the Holy Spirit sets the pace in her home because when she prays, the Lord lays it in the husband’s heart and he executes it. Each time I pray about an issue which I wasn’t in accordance with my husband, the next morning he will tell me ”Baby you have done it again right, you reported me to God and he showed me clearly that you are right” This is why it is expedient to marry a God fearing husband who hears and obeys the voice of the Lord.
Before the wedding you need to pray for the Lord to mend and mould you because we women have the ability to change like chameleons but remember that 1 Timothy 3:11 says ”In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.” You are the one who sets the mood of the home so pray for the Lord to fill your home with love, peace, joy and hospitality. Declare no lack in your home, pray for your husband to love your food and sex, pray for your unborn children, pray for your new neighbourhood etc. Pray without ceasing my dear because the forces that are waiting for you to fail are real so your prayer bank needs to be full.
The way you are busy thinking about your bridal dance and your grand entrance at the reception hall, I hope you know that you need to bring good tidings to your husband. It is written in Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” You need to go down on your knees and bless your husband. Pray to God that your union will bring favour to him in his spiritual life, professional life, purpose, in the society etc. After your wedding he can’t be less than the way you met him so you need to pray because the enemy moves like a roaring lion looking for homes to destroy. Therefore, decare Mark 10;9 “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Also pray for your in-laws, may the Lord make you to live genuinely happy with them because they are now your family.
When you have settled with God, all other things will fall in place. Do not concentrate on the wedding and forget about the marriage because the realities of marriage can cancel the wedding. That is why the is a word like divorce but it is not our portion in Jesus name. Divorce is not in our heavenly dictionary so I declare that our marriages are covered with the blood of Jesus.
Remain blessed and continue praying all through Holy Matrimony.
Living heaven on earth…
Queen Mother